Wait, What?

wait, what?!

you say your spouse has changed, they aren’t the same person you married. and, it is breaking your heart. do they have a brain tumor? this was an actual question from a good friend of mine who was questioning her marriage and feeling sad. her spouse used to be fun, spontaneous and compassionate but now was becoming increasingly rigid and had to prepare, plan and make lists before they did ANYthing! where’s the fun in THAT?

my friend’s feelings were often hurt and she felt very disconnected to her spouse.

we found out it wasn’t a brain tumor but that his perception of the world had shifted from fun and play to facts and logic. you are probably saying, what in the world are you talking about?! it sounds crazy but it’s not - some of us MAY go through shifts in our lifetimes, and some of us may NOT.

when we do have a shift, our perceptions can change from what they once were. our view of the world changes and we become different and yet we have features that are still the same. our gestures, postures, tones, facial expressions and words change from what they were. while it may be a subtle shift, we and those around us notice and even our life trajectory may change.

back to my friend’s spouse, life was always spontaneous and fun but when he shifted, he became serious and focused on work and schedules. he still had the spontaneity and fun IN him but his newfound way of being in the world was now more serious and planned out.

why?! that is the question of the century and i’d love to share the answer with you.

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